How To Attract Women With Your Body Language

I wanted to share a great article we saw in Psychology Today that totally gels with The Art of Charm’s theory on positive and negative body language.  The article is written by Dr. Jeremy Nicholson and can be found here (http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-attraction-doctor/201105/you-dont-say-persuasive-body-language-flirting-and-dating). There are a lot of great points in this article, and we’d like to build on that by explaining exactly why your body language is such an important part of human sexuality.

Dr. Nicholson suggests that “what you don’t say matters.”  Well, we’d like to take this a step further, in fact, a lot further!  While psychologists debate the exact percentage of attraction that is non-verbal in nature (with some claiming up to 93% of communication is non-verbal), it’s pretty clear to us at the Art of Charm that body language is an extremely important tool to generate attraction.

Why?

Well, if you’ve been with us for any period of time, you know that one topic that we always return to is the role of the subconscious mind in generating attraction.  You see, the vast majority of our perception of the world is created by our unconscious mind, a tool that has evolved to make split second decisions based on cues that we gather from the environment.  Furthermore, while the conscious mind is responsible for things like logic and reasoning, the subconscious is responsible for our emotions, desires, hate, love, beliefs, intuition and most importantly, sexuality.

Indeed, sexuality is perhaps one of our most basic of instincts – it’s been a driver of human evolution for hundreds of thousands of years, and for the most part it occurs entirely on a subconscious level.  Think about it, when you see a picture of a beautiful woman, do you have to think about it to get turned on?  No, it happens automatically!

And the same is true for women.  Ever wonder why a girl says that she got a “creepy vibe” from a guy?  Or that things just “fizzled out”?  Well, it’s generally not because of something he said, it’s because he was sending the wrong subconscious signals.

Now, at this point you might be asking, what are the subconscious signals of attraction?  Well, there are a bunch – such as the tone of your voice, the pheromones that you naturally omit, as well as a host of other stimuli.  But perhaps the most important signal is your body language.

Women unconsciously read body language to determine:  1) the social status of a man, 2) his level of interest and relative position in the mating game and 3) his sexual vitality.  So it sounds pretty important that you get your body language correct, huh?  Well, it is – like we said, when you’re flirting with a woman, body language is your primary tool to build attraction, NOT what you say!

Interestingly enough, several researchers believe that human sexuality isn’t even tied to any language centers in the brain!

So now that we’ve explained the importance of body language in attraction, you might be asking “how do I master this critical phase?”  Well, for those that subscribe to our newsletter (if you are not on the newsletter, you can signup in the top right corner), we’ll be sending out a couple of emails on positive and negative body language, and for everyone else that wants to learn more, click here http://theartofcharm.com/strategy for a FREE coaching session!