Honesty

But then why are most of us liars? Why do most of us spend our time manipulating the truth? What are we afraid of? Why are we afraid to tell our lovers the truth?

Why are we afraid to talk to our bosses about problems? What are we so afraid of?

Why are we always trying to find a way around being honest with people? And when it comes down to it, why is it sometimes so painful to be honest?

So you got into a fight with a friend. And instead of saying things directly to your friend, what do you do? You talk to your other friends about what happened. You hope that the situation just resolves itself, but what really happens is that you find yourself in the same situation over and over again. That’s not being honest.

If you have issues with people, talk directly to them. Why are you so afraid?

The only way to be 100% successful in life is to be completely honest with people. If you’re having issues with your lover, you have to be honest with him or her. Perhaps you’re not satisfied sexually. Of course, you don’t just walk up to your lover and say, “Hey, you don’t satisfy me sexually,” but you do have to be honest with your lover about your feelings and your desires. And don’t just talk to your friends about it.

If you have issues in your relationships, most of the time these issues arise because you weren’t honest with each other in the first place about your wishes and desires. If you’re truly honest in relationships – if you share with the other person your wishes and desires – you’ll build the foundation of a healthy relationship from the beginning.

So for those of you who are not being 100% honest in your relationships, the time is now. There is a book called Radical Honesty, which is about 250 pages long. I’m going to save you from reading this book and just tell you right now what you’d learn: you have to start being honest, no matter how difficult it is.

There is no reason to lie in life. You’re only cheating yourself!