Ever seen a hottie in another car while driving and wondered how to actually meet
her? I think we all have.
Amazingly, though, this is yet another topic I’ve never seen discussed much at all…let alone in the Seduction Community.
So let’s do something about that.
Now, don’t get me wrong. I fully get why hardly anyone has even attempted to address how to meet women while driving. It’s NOT EASY.
In fact, it’s replete with challenges that go way, way beyond normal approach and pickup.
After all, going up and talking to women who are standing ten feet in front of you is hard enough, let alone when they’re sequestered in moving vehicles.
I mean “approaching” in this case could result in a fender-bender if her car is actually MOVING, considering your attention is likely…um…not on the road at that moment.
Besides, even if a woman’s car is NOT MOVING at the moment, it’s not like you can carry a conversation with her with all that space, metal and glass between you.
Or can you?
Well, here’s the deal. I think you can.
But fair warning: Before you proceed any further, you’re going to have to check your natural instincts at the door, ignore the “dork warning alarm” possibly going off in your head, and—most of all–grow a pair.
Choose to follow those steps along with the rest of what I’m about to share and you could open up a
brand new venue for meeting women that has unlimited possibilities.
Or, you could keep doing what you’re doing…and always be left wondering what that chick in the next car was really like.
So let’s cover the basics first.
Beyond a shadow of a doubt, the optimal place to notice a potential hottie in traffic and get her attention is at a red light. That is, when your cars have actually STOPPED MOVING.
This means you can indeed safely take your eyes off the road and try to get her attention without causing a multi-car pile up.
Personally, I think there are more productive uses for killer auto insurance than that.
So here’s rule number one: THERE IS NO TIME FOR “INDIRECT GAME”.
Forget subtlety. Either you take a measured risk and throw it all out on the table, or that light is going to turn green while you’re still fumbling over an “opener”.
All you really should “open” here is your WINDOW, preferably after pulling up directly next to her.
By the way, pull up to her PASSENGER SIDE if you can. She’ll be able to see you better, hear you better, and match your lip movements to the words for better understanding just in case…but only
if YOU are the one closer to your own respective window.
Granted, getting a better look at her might very well be on your agenda, and that’ll indeed take a potential hit here compared to if you had pulled up to her driver’s side instead.
But even if you haven’t had a chance to notice her prior to the red light, what I’ve recommended here is the better way to go.
Think about it.
Pulling up to her passenger side even has the slight advantage of increasing her comfort level a bit.
Women are always considering their own personal safety, and rolling up on her driver’s side takes away the “buffer zone” of her passenger seat and positions you just a bit too close for comfort.
In other words, were I a “car-jacker” (which I’m not), I’d probably roll up on the driver’s side. So would an actual “car-jacker”.
The fact that YOU are then harder for HER to see from that perspective plays into the “security factor” also, definitely.
So given the choice, let her see YOU more clearly.
If you think about it, either you OR her having a convertible on a nice day here is a definite advantage, isn’t it? I bet women in convertibles get TONS more attention in traffic.
A caveat though: Please don’t buy some “girl car” like a VW Beetle convertible or a Mazda Miata expressly for this purpose. It could backfire. Masculine convertibles are hard to come by. If you must, think “Jeep” instead of “BMW” and you’ll be on the right track.
So with “positioning” in order, here are the steps.
First, grab your cell phone.
Next, roll the window down.
Get the “I’m going to kill somebody” scowl off your face, relax, and instead find the “wry smile” you’ve been practicing in the mirror.
If she doesn’t look over at you naturally, give the WORLD’S SLIGHTEST TAP on the horn. No leaning on the horn here, please, gentlemen.
Repeat that last step if necessary. Resist the urge to blare the horn louder and/or for a longish time if a second try is required. Then, when she looks over, motion with her hand to “roll down the window”.
Forget that hardly any cars have roll-down windows anymore. That’s the universally understood signal for the desired result.
Just like I’m still telling my kid that trains are “choo-choos” even though they’ve been diesels for sixty years, some things just aren’t going to change.
She’ll likely look at you quizzically, or even laugh.
If she doesn’t open the window at first, give her that “slow nod with the slowly closing eyes” look that says, “it’s okay, just do it” while making the “rolling” motion a bit more slowly and deliberately.
Maybe some day I’ll make a YouTube vid demonstrating this concept, but probably not so don’t hold your breath. I think you know what I’m talking about.
When she rolls down the window, which she likely will, consider yourself to have FIFTEEN SECONDS…max.
Hold up your cell phone and say, “Wow…you and I should talk. Give me your cell phone number.”
Do this in as cordial and non-threatening a manner as you can while still enunciating clearly and speaking loudly enough to be heard.
Also note you are NOT ASKING for her number. You are TAKING THE LEAD and telling her to give it to you.
Not only is this more likely to get the desired result, it actually saves time associated with her mulling the “options” of saying yes or no.
I have no idea why that is true, but it is. Let’s just chalk it up to how women are hard-wired to follow a man’s lead.
Remember to keep the positive demeanor up if and when she says, “What?” The probability of that happening is surprisingly likely even if you state your request rather than asking.
Rolling your eyes or sighing in frustration here is a mood-killer, so don’t do it.
It’s just that she’s just in a mild state of shock. Bold guys like you don’t come along often, even though she wishes they did.
When she responds with her number, listen VERY closely to the digits, and REMEMBER THEM. Importantly, do not attempt to enter them into your phone while she tells them to you.
The human brain can actually commit a string of up to seven digits to short-term memory easily. Try this sometime…it’s much easier to remember seven than even eight numbers.
Once you have her number, your MAIN GOAL is to repeat the number to yourself until you have it securely entered into your phone.
I believe it’s even arguable that you should say ANYTHING to her after getting the number…even “thanks” or “I’ll call you”. Any human being who can fog a mirror should know what comes
next…a phone call.
If you can manage a quick wink or nod, fine. But don’t let that distract you from remembering that phone number. Don’t even worry about rolling the window back up yet.
At that point, I’m 99.9% positive that the light will have turned green, and that you’re more than likely first in line. I get all that.
So what? Make the cars behind you wait an extra ten seconds and ENTER THE NUMBER.
This is a “movie moment” happening here, so let the cigar-chewing taxi drivers and/or soccer moms back there honk at you. They’ll get over it.
Blowing her phone number would be worse than a few “honks” blowing their horn at you.
She’ll likely be ahead of you in traffic at that point.
Take down her license plate and run a background check on her.
Only kidding.
Actually, you should CALL HER. DO IT RIGHT THEN.
DO NOT wait the “customary three days”. Ridiculously obvious? Of course it is, but then again I’m also very aware of some of the wack teaching I’m up against out there.
She’d better answer. After all, it’s not like she shouldn’t be expecting a call.
If you get voice mail, though, answer with “Hello, this is the [insert her car manufacturer here] Motor Company with an important recall notice. It seems your particular model is particularly susceptible to being rolled up beside at red lights by devastatingly handsome guys with particularly good taste.”
Then proceed with, “…Actually, this is [name]. My number is [number]. Call me back.”
Rest assured, she knows you’re the one who she just met at the red light.
If the call does indeed go to voice mail, assume for now that she’s either shy or overwhelmed and needed some time to pull herself together after all that excitement a couple of minutes ago. That’s a safe bet, actually.
If she answers? Simple. Introduce yourself and tell her your name. Proceed as you would any
other time you are talking to a woman whose number you got anywhere else.
If you’re at a loss there, call me or e-mail me. We’ve talked about that all before, and space is too limited here to cover it all again.
So that’s how you master meeting women at red lights.
I know what you’re asking. What about on the highway…like when there are no stop lights? I’ve got you covered in Part Two, coming soon.
Be Good,
Scot McKay
