Well, especially appropriate for online dating, I’m going to share with you a little secret. And I’m only going to share with you this secret ONE TIME, so if you lose this post, you’re done for.
So how do you do this? How do you get a woman to really sexually open up to you when you don’t even know her yet?
When I read a woman’s profile online, I read the profile! I don’t just stare at the picture like an average guy – this is not Maxim magazine! This is not Penthouse – I’m not looking at some pictures to jerk off by! I’m looking at real people and I’m trying to figure out who this woman really is.
So when I see a woman online, I’m going to read her profile. I’m going to see whether she’s needy, whether she’s real, whether she’s bitter – her profile will tell you everything about her. There are women that talk about everything they are: I’m this, I’m this, I’m this, I’m that… – these are what I call ‘List Women’ – they list everything, but they are emotionally void.
You can see it, because women will write it – because most women have not been with a man that sexually pleases them in every way – most men just don’t know how to sexually please a woman at all. They have no idea the depth of it. For women, the foreplay starts in the deep barrels of their mind. It starts from the second you say hello – it’s the way you seduce her with your words, with your actions, with your body language – everything!
You have to be extremely patient in the way you talk about sex and yourself and the way that you listen. A woman wants to be with a guy that she feels like understands her. That turns her on. She needs to get emotionally connected when it comes down to sex.
So what I will do, when I’m online, is read a profile and take a look. A woman who is absolutely craving an erotic sensual experience will basically write that in her online profile.
She’ll say, “I am looking for a guy that understands my sensuality,” or something like, “I’m looking for a man that’s really passionate,” or “I’m looking for a man that loves to kiss for a long time,” or “I’m looking for a man that is erotically charged.” They’ll write that stuff!
They know that most men don’t read their profiles, so what they are doing is hoping that the right man is going to read the profile. So when I read that part of her profile, I’m immediately going to write her something back that captures that romantic or soulful moment.
Maybe she writes, “I love deep kisses that last all night long.” Then maybe I’d write something like this:
Subject Line: “So you say you like…
Message Body: Deep kisses that last all night long… too bad. Who likes that?
I’d much rather kiss for like five minutes and then immediately have sex. Isn’t that the right thing to do? ?”
So what you are doing is making fun of her, having a little bit of fun, and then what you need to say is this:
“I really enjoyed reading your profile, I like your energy. We need to connect.”
So it’s all very subliminal. She’s talking about connection, she’s talking about deep kisses, but you’re also showing her that you have a sense of humor and you’re also telling her that you understand how bad her sexual plight has been!
The other night Yakub and I were hanging out and we were talking to a woman online that I have never spoken to ever before. Here’s what happened…
Yakub: Immediately she went crazy and she confessed that she’d never met a man that was so bold and authentic. Because most guys would just ask for more pictures – she’s a model. But they don’t say anything, and they don’t intrigue her.
She confessed that most guys just want to see how she looks. They don’t really pay attention to who she is as a person. But when David communicated with her with the right language, in the right way, as a man who is confident, really strong, and really sexually charged – that’s when she really opened up and confessed that she’d never met a man like him.
David: So how do you become that man? What did you learn by listening to that?
Yakub: Becoming that man is really understanding how a woman’s mind works. It’s about being calm – not being like every other guy. You don’t write the book right away. It’s not like jumping on and getting what you want in five minutes – have sex with her and leave. That does not work with women, because that is not how women think! Women think in a whole different way.
When you become the kind of man that understands women, you take things slowly. Instead of becoming caveman you can understand her and provide for her what she wants. She wants a man who listens to her, who understands her and who she is as a sexual person as well. Then, sex will just come to you. You don’t have to chase sex – it will come to you!
David: So basically what we’re saying here is that when you’re looking at her online, you really need to get to know her soul because she is basically telling you that she wants her soul explored. Most guys don’t understand that.
And when you talk about sex with a woman online, you don’t really want to tell her the things you want to do TO her – you want to tell her the things you want to experience WITH her.
Yakub: But David, she’s said that she’s really sensual and she hasn’t felt so sensual in a long time – she communicates that she loves sex. So that’s why I really talk to her about sex. I said, “oh my god, I really want you right now!” and when I said that, she didn’t reply. I wonder, what am I doing wrong?
David: It’s an amazing process. But that’s it for this today. We’ll talk more about getting a sexual confession from women another day.
