I don’t care what it takes.
This is the most important thing you can do.
If it takes putting yourself in a situation like taking ballet lessons then so be it, do it. One thing I hear from women is that men need to “just be themselves!”
We’ve heard this before–it means your true self, the unhindered self, completely at ease in the moment. Able to function at a high level and non-reactive to any stimuli from the environment or the beauty of a woman.
Women can read your comfort level like no other creature in the world–they have to be good, it’s their screening process for weak men.
You guys have got to put the e-books down, go out there and meet women!
I don’t care what the situation is–I am here to tell you it’s all the same. One interaction is not easier than another. If you are comfortable she will be comfortable–bottom line. Do what ever it takes to get and stay comfortable.
Put your self in uncomfortable situations.
I know, it sucks, but too bad!
I know its weird, but too bad!
This is something you have to do for yourself.
You can say whatever you need to–if you are comfortable.
You can act however you want–when you’re comfortable.
If you are completely at ease with yourself no one can take that from you, unless you become reactive. You will have everything to say and there will be no freezing up or queasy stomach feelings, you will just be smooth and able to turn anything you want into great banter and conversation.
A lot of people talk about becoming and learning to be non-reactive. I’ve got news for you: you have to go from negative 10 to 0 before you can start going to positive 10 . Check out the scale, you can look at it this way…
-10 -9 -8 -7 -6 -5 -4 – 3 -2 -1 0 +1+2 +3 +4 +5 +6 +7 +8 +9 +10
Completely Relatively Very
Uncomfortable Comfortable Comfortable
If you are extremely reactive to women, it’s going to take you a long time before you can roll into a club and take someone home. Now if you’re starting out on a decent comfort level, it should be very easy to get yourself to feel confident and talk to a woman and pull her home.
Where are you on this scale?
It’s easy to figure out. Be honest with yourself and have a friend point it out for you to verify.
Are you reactive to your environment? That puts you on the negative side of the scale.
Do you get a little nervous approaching and talking to random women? That puts you on an average level of around the middle.
Do you approach and bullshit at will about whatever? Now we’re near that positive end.
This is easy to correct, it just takes time. Get out there and force yourself into these situations. Have your friends push you into these situations. Turn the whole thing into a game if you need to–I know I did.
Take a boot camp, take ballet, gymnastics, or just go where there are women and talk to them! This will not be the end of the world. It will be the beginning of the rest of your life.
