I spend some time in all my workshops talking about the definition of success. Some guys think that success is being able to seduce a woman in a bar and take her home for sex. Other guys think of success as being able to get a phone number. And many guys just starting out would be really happy if they could just be able to start a conversation with a woman.
Regardless of how you define success, before you can have any success at all, you have to be open to it. Do you want a girlfriend? A one-night stand? Are you available for a relationship of any kind? Would you be ready to go full steam ahead if any of these fell into your lap?
I just received a letter from one of my students that was outstanding and a little embarrassing.
This student told me that my workshop was not very helpful to him. He said he left with a lot of confusion and frustration. I felt bad. I felt like I had failed him. I was certain I had given him some great tools. The concepts and steps I had armed him with were all sound ideas and real-world material I had used to great success myself. But he was carrying a lot of frustration. There was something else in his way.
Within a few weeks, he found himself tearing up the legal papers he saved from the day his mother died. Today, he is beginning to make progress with the concepts of attraction. seduction, and pickup.
If YOUR game isn’t where it should be, it might not be solved by learning another opener or routine. There might be something else in the way. I call this the Luggage Disparity.
If I give you a new approach to try on a woman and you feel nervous about it but you try it anyway, boot camp is for you. Every guy feels nervous and even a little bummed when a girl seems less than interested. But if you cannot bring yourself to try an approach, or even imagine yourself rolling up to a strange man or woman and initiating a conversation, then there is something else in the way.
The amount of resistance you feel to approaching women is the Luggage Disparity. It’s the power of emotional blockage that is preventing your success with women. It will continue to block you no matter how many boot camps you take. If you are dealing with that kind of paralyzing baggage, don’t sign up for workshops or boot camp. The reason things aren’t working for you is deeper than game. Attending a boot camp to essentially throw another band-aid on a deep wound isn’t going to make it heal any faster.
If you find yourself paralyzed by the Luggage Disparity, spend your money on some psychological therapy that can go a little deeper and build you a strong foundation for developing natural game later on. Crying about your problems is for babies, but seeking the right kind of help for one of life’s challenges is the most ‘alpha’ thing a man can do. Start now, before you spend another cent.
KP’s download FEAR: Gone in 60 Seconds will remove your approach anxiety: http://www.getthegirlnow.com/fear.html. Workshops and free tips at http://www.getthegirlnow.com.
photo by Noel Zia Lee
