Hey there,
My name is Liz, and I’m the editor of Sean Stephenson’s Inner Game Magazine. Every month, I write an article called “Getting Inside a Woman,”where I reveal what women are really thinking, feeling, and secretly DESIRING from men!
Before the weather gets cold again, make sure you enjoy some time outdoors.
And with that in mind, I thought I’d give you a few tips on how to improve your “day game.”
First of all, if you see an attractive woman walking down the street, don’t ask her what time it is.
I know, I know, but you’d be surprised at how often this “line”still gets used.
And even if you know better, do you know the real reason WHY it doesn’t work?
Look, women are people too, and people are (mostly) friendly.
That said, there is a difference between being friendly and being flirtatious. Asking for the time will get you a FRIENDLY response.
Yes, she will stop to talk to you, but it won’t create attraction. It will go something like this:
Guy: “Excuse me, do you know what time it is?”
Real Woman: “Yeah, it’s 3:45.”
Guy: “Uh”.thanks.” But he doesn’t move; he stands there like an idiot, looking confused and defeated as she keeps going about her day.
Seriously, though, what answer did he THINK he was going to get?
Guy: “Excuse me, do you know what time it is?”
Fantasy Woman: “Oh yeah, it’s time for us to do naughty things to each other”
Yeah, right.
You see, most guys think that the way to get a woman interested is to get her attention, so they’ll do ANYTHING to get her to talk to him.
As long as she keeps talking to you, it’s working, right?
Not so much.
Look, you don’t just want a woman’s attention, you want her ATTRACTION.
Think that one over for a minute.
A variation on “the time line”is when a guy asks for directions or if there’s a [insert store name] nearby.
See, what you have to realize is, non-needy people only ask for the time when they actually need to know what time it is”
And they only ask for directions when they are actually lost.
A woman can tell the difference because someone who genuinely needs such information will move on as soon as he gets it, whereas a man who just needed “an excuse to talk to her”will awkwardly linger.
I’m going to share with you an ACTUAL conversation that took place between me and a guy who stopped me on the street in San Francisco.
Guy: “Excuse me, do you know where Folsom Street is?”
Me: “Yeah, it’s three blocks that way (I pointed).”
Guy: “Oh”so”just three blocks that way?”
Me:”Yep, just three blocks that way.”
Guy: “So”I just go three blocks in that direction.”
Me: “Exactly.”
Guy: “Are you going that way?”
Me: “No, I’m going this way (pointing in the opposite direction).”
Guy: “Oh. But I need to go that way?”
Me: “Well, Folsom street is in that direction, so yes, you do.”
Guy: “And it’s three blocks?”
Me: “Yes.”
Guy: “So it’s walking distance?”
AHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH!!!
I hope you don’t think I’m mean for telling this story, but I really want to illustrate that just because a girl is TALKING to you doesn’t mean she’s interested in you.
Women are actually subjected to this kind of stupidity ALL OF THE TIME because most guys think that the way to pick up a woman is to keep talking to her about ANYTHING.
As long as she doesn’t walk away, it’s going well.
Well, let me be the one to break it to you: it’s NOT going well. She’s being nice, which is not attraction, it’s pity.
Let me ask you something.
Have you ever been walking down the street and you hear something that sounds like metal rattling? You look and see that it’s a homeless person shaking a paper cup full of coins.
Guess what”that homeless person just got your ATTENTION.
Now, I think it’s awful that there are so many people who suffer from homelessness and poverty, but it’s clear that these people are desperate. And they have a good reason to be.
You, however, DON’T have any good reason to be desperate.
So stop. Stop begging a woman for her attention.
Instead, go out. Enjoy the sunshine. Go do the things you want to do, and take up new hobbies. Go check out new places.
Women WILL notice you, and you will naturally have their attention”the GOOD kind of attention”the kind that leads to attraction.
And when you’re talking to a woman, realize that when there’s attraction there, you won’t have to struggle to keep her talking to you.
Let me repeat that”
If she is attracted to you, she will also be finding reasons to keep talking to you.
I know you might be feeling frustrated right now, but don’t worry. If you have solid inner game, you naturally won’t engage in stupid conversations about whether or not three blocks is walking distance.
Why?
Because YOU will not want to waste your OWN precious time.
You will not be afraid to let one particular woman walk away because you’ll know that it’s her loss and there are other fish in the sea.
You won’t NEED the ATTENTION anymore.
And a guy who isn’t needy is SUPER ATTRACTIVE!
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