“This is your life and it’s ending one minute at a time.”
I watched Fight Club recently on BluRay and re-asserted the awesomeness of it in my personal movie universe. This isn’t just a killer movie, it’s a piece of cinematic literature. It spoke to me. Some of the great themes: throwing off the corporate chains. Embracing our nature as animals and our need to be violent. Our need to screw like animals. Rebellion. The internal battle of good vs. evil. Being an insider and being a part of something that makes us special. Living a life of passion. Pushing the edges and finding our limits. The bad boy versus the nice guy.
Everyone knows that Fight Club makes a great metaphor for game. Check it out.
1st and 2nd rules. You DO NOT talk about Fight Club. We actually talk about dating and game ad nauseum online, so when we’re out in the field socializing, we DON’T TALK ABOUT FIGHT CLUB…I mean, don’t talk about game. This is a great rule. Don’t analyze your interactions mid-set, don’t debrief in the club, do not get out of the moment. Instead, live in the moment and fill your interactions with passion. Revel in the closes and laugh at the blowouts. The time for breaking down interactions is after you’ve had sex with a chick, or when you’re back at the house at the end of the night.
3rd Rule: If someone says “stop,” goes limp, taps out, the fight is over. If you get blown out, eject from the set and move on. If you get broken up with or you do the breaking up, don’t linger in the relationship, move on. Next.
4th Rule: Only two guys to a fight. This is a good wingman rule; don’t move in on your buddy’s target. I also see this in another way. I see this as an internal battle, the alpha vs. beta, chode vs. player. When you’re out socializing, the challenge is always one of you versus yourself, not you versus the chick, versus the club, or versus other dudes. You are the one who makes game happen, and you are the one who defines a good night versus a bad night. In the movie, the true battle is actually between the unnamed narrator (Ed Norton) vs. Tyler Durden (Brad Pitt), or the protagonist versus himself.
5th Rule: One fight at a time. Live a life of abundance, but stay focused on who’s in front of you.
6th Rule: No shirts, no shoes. Go into your interactions unadorned and exposed as a true man of character. Let people see who you truly are.
7th Rule: Fights will go on as long as they have to. Run your sets to their natural conclusions. Give it your best effort and fight to win, but don’t be afraid to lose either. Take chances. Plow when needed.
8th Rule: If this is your first night at Fight Club, you HAVE to fight. This is the most important rule on the list. If it’s your first time out, you HAVE to open sets. No excuses. Treat every single social opportunity in the same way, even if it’s approach 1 or approach 1000.
Here’s a great Fight Club quote:
“A guy who came to Fight Club for the first time, his ass was a wad of cookie dough. After a few weeks, he was carved out of wood.”
When you’re beta and suck with chicks, you’re that wad of cookie dough. After you go into the field enough and do hundreds of approaches, you’re carved out of wood. Your entire reality is different. Everything else in your life gets the volume turned down. You turn into a fucking warrior.
Remember, don’t talk about Fight Club!
“Lance is an aspiring social artist based in Central Florida. His goal is to be a kickass dude, meet cool people, and generally dominate at everything. He is co-author of honeyandlance.com, a blog about sex, dating, and relationships.”
photo by Polina Sergeeva