Balancing Out The Power: Part 2

Let’s talk more about balancing out the power with women, because until you have ‘the power’ your results ‘probably’ aren’t where you want them.  It’s important to note that women are very intuitive and can sense your energy before you even approach.   So if you’re having butterflies, that means that the game is going to be a real challenge with women every time.

It’s like starting on your 1 yard line in football and trying to go for a touchdown.  You think you’d be scoring more if you started on your 50, 60 or 70 yard line EVERY time?  Yes, it’s a whole different reality.
When your energy is seeping and you have an ‘agenda’ (even if you’re ‘learning in field’), she generally can’t trust you or ever open up to you sexually like that (unless she is horny now, gives you leeway on it, and you find common ground or rapport in other areas).

Why? Because you already told her SHE has the relational power.

Do you want your love life to rely on numbers or happenstance? Shouldn’t getting dates and results be ‘flow’ instead of a challenge?  Your physiology and true relationship to her already told her that she is the prize and you’re not man enough to be her equal – it’s a losing battle and you’re forced to justify or display your (social) ‘value’ to her instead of just bypassing it and getting somewhere with her fast by accepting your power in relation to her power.

Her ‘defense’ will put so much pressure on you  if you’re not her equal. She’ll force the turnover and defeat, giving you no chance to ‘score.’  If you were her equal you’d start out at the 50 yard line or more.  So if you want to excel at pick-up, work on your natural game and relational equality.

This way you’re always starting out as her physiological equal (when you attain it). Then, instead of coming up with more ‘tricks’ to try and score from the 1 yard line, you can have solid ‘game’ that not only starts at the 50 but progresses efficiently.  With attraction, a woman has to be receptive. She has to be the one who is interested. Your sweet spot (for a synergistic relationship) is her natural (sexual) character. But if you go up against her high-powered social alpha character she’ll beat you almost every time {or are you just ‘thinking’ about that ‘tight end’?}

Here are some questions to think about:

(How ’bout dem Packers vs. da bears?..)
So, how can naturals not say anything and communicate so powerfully when most men, it seems, don’t compare to that? How can beliefs be changed so that women start quivering in your very presence and have no choice but to follow your natural, invisible lead?

How can you TRULY get rid of the butterfly ‘fear’ response because she’s so ‘hot’ and no matter how much you try to deny it your body wants her anyway?

Of course it seems all experts say ‘approach anyway’ but does that effectively deal with the root issues anyway? Are you REALLY just chasing the (social) ‘prize’ and then actively trying to pretend you don’t want it when she sees you’re just playing the game and can’t be ‘real’ with her?

Why not just start at the 50 yard line EVERY TIME with women instead of being forced to come up with trick plays back at the 6 yard line? Wouldn’t that be a more efficient game strategy?  Of course you have to work more from the 6 yard line every time with a lower chance of ‘scoring’.  When you’re effective her defense is weak for a reason; when you score, she scores – you both win.

Even for short term results, is the answer really in ‘just approach more’? Is this really a way to overcome a man’s unshakable physiological response and fear in relation to the obvious prize in his mind?
I would say, look at the type of relationship the man has with her different, root behavioral characteristics (natural, inner and social character). Consistent, panty-dropping results lie in the natural dynamic. And when you have that ability to spur attraction, women keep wanting to be with you or most importantly perhaps that ‘one’ woman.

Understanding and representing nature and energy is the path to balance, attraction, results and power.
All of these issues again are physiological and are rooted in the man’s beliefs and his relationship to women. Popular, surface level fixes are hardly going to make a dent in results until he can change his relationship to her social power. That’s why PUA’s notoriously have to play the numbers game, while naturals like me don’t have to work like that.  And really, there’s no choice but to play the numbers game if you’re only communicating with women socially and not reaching them with your energy, nature, and power.

It’s because you’re not showing enough natural value and you’re not triggering her physiological response in relation to you.  So, isn’t there a shortcut or a faster way to not only overcome fear but to connect with women and trigger attraction?

Is there a way to ‘get’ what you want without chasing it or having no choice but to ‘approach 1,000 women’ and focus on ‘the words’?

Of course solid experience is part of the equation, but only 1/3 of what accelerated it for me (more another time).  If we focus on just approaching and a coach will keep telling the guy to calibrate but he’s only communicating with her on the least important 6%, he’s only limiting his results and will keep an endless circle going. The fear is never really dealt with when top PUA’s still admit to having fear of (high social value) women.

Why? Because the women have ‘the power’. And it works for the fantasy and economy but not for real relationships or sex. There are rare exceptions.  {In sage country, pronouns and cocktails mingle freely}

How can the man become her true equal? Unless he’s a rockstar, etc. he usually CAN’T socially. The metaframe is she is the social prize (which he believes is sexuality). It’s the cycle PUA’s are perpetually stuck in ONLY playing the social game and not having a clue about their natural game or her alpha female nature.

So until there is equality between them on SOME level, nothing is going to happen because the man is the stimulus and she is the response in the mating dynamic. This is deeper than emulating alpha male actions.

If she is the stimulus/prize with the value, she can’t trust him to open up to lead to sex (unless he proves he is her equal or greater).

Again, relational equality is of utmost importance and it’s judged in the first part of any new relationship. If you’re not equal in status or power to her on some level,  the chances of anything happening are rare. And if you want physical relationships, sure high social status will help attract women but it’s really about being her behavioral equal and your natural value.

Natural = Sexual.

It’s really about your ability to bring out HER natural/sexual response. And this is easiest to see in more natural women instead of behaviorally suppressed independent women.  Because men are (usually completely) ignorant of male/female nature and energy, they have no choice but to play the ‘game’ that society has put in front of them; a game which keeps the sex lives of men and women dry and instead profiting billions of dollars for others.

100 million men have been conditioned to want to sleep with a woman when she takes on the bleached blond hair and perma-tan with huge sunglasses DESPITE knowing the true character of the woman behind the social mask. Sexploitation is a thriving business with myspace clones further exacerbating it.
It’s nearly impossible NOT to play the game in the social dynamic where you almost always have the lower hand.   DHV’ing and NEGGING are almost mandatory, unless you have an entirely different relationship to her power.

So if you’ve felt that these surface level fixes just weren’t doing it, you’re in the right place. It’s also important to note that the response from our First World women is not optimal for improving your ‘game’ either until you really start getting your game down. So to take your power back and become abundant with women there’s a few things you have to do which I’ll just introduce here.
Reframe your relationship to all female power. First you have to understand female behavior and it’s truth at the root and different her nature from her causal nurture.

Then, put a natural alpha female as your model of sexuality (on a pedestal even) in place of the pornstar. You’ll find that in your approaches and with women you not only get more flirting, results and attraction (advancing down the field) but that things start happening as you thought they were supposed to.
Triggering attraction about everywhere you go is a great reality to live in. Work on developing that NATURAL reality and it will take care of everything else you ever studied on this subject. There is little else to know once you get the 94% reality handled.

But thoughts alone aren’t enough. Orgasms are great reinforcers so that’s why logical thoughts are so weak against the power of your energy, beliefs and physiology. To make a real change happen you have to condition yourself into a more natural reality while breaking apart your past conditioned beliefs. You have to involve your energy, physiology and emotion to make massive breakthroughs.  This means you have to be ‘in relationship to’ more natural thoughts, people, women, relationships, experiences, elements, environments.

And here’s the thing; this will NOT happen by default anywhere in the First World with adult women. Ok, maybe in an Amish village if you donated a cow.  So to wrap this one up, I encourage you if you’re serious to just study natural game some more and differentiate it from social tactics; see things for what they are and understand that 94% of communication is also where your power to succeed with women lies.

It’s not just about ‘taking your power back’ (as I used to advocate); the higher evolution is bringing out the one power that women are missing – their natural power. That is the one key. That is your key.