The Flow of Seduction: A Game in Which No one Loses

I’m sitting in the middle of the stairs right below the cathedral in Cologne, Germany. It is one of these days at the end of spring when the sun burns really hot; dark, grey clouds hang miles above your
head; and the strong wind tells you that it will rain in a few hours. I flip back the pages of my
notebook as the wind turns them over again. I write down a sentence “talk about stuff that get her
into a flow”. Wind flips over my page.

I am happy. It was a very good weekend; I met new people, thought new ideas.  The  sun shines and wait a second. She is cute. Pitch black long silk hair, a ponytail that you want to pull, her mouth wrinkles in a relaxed smile and she fights against the wind that flips over the pages of her book. I watch the scene for a second. Would I like to talk to her? Yes. Would I like to love her? From what I see so far, yes.  So I go.

I get up, take slowly the few steps towards her and sit down next to her and say the first thing that
comes to my mind. “Hey, you’re cute. What do you read?  She blushes a bit, but as I opened the
escape road to respond to what she reads, she only gives me a clue that she is enjoying that
compliment. In this moment I realize that she is attractive and that we should come together in a physical way. In this moment I feel the flow in which our emotions can spread. We can both play the
game of seduction; we can allow ourselves to play without having to win. Seduction is not a
competition where one moves his army across the other’s battlefield and burns every village on the
way so that there is no place left but sex. Seduction, as I think of it, is a game for adults.

A game where no one fights, but players entrance one another, where worlds collide as both share their world
with the other one, no one gets hurt and no one can fail. At one point in time the game will be over
and the memory will stay behind. This point can be reached after 5 minutes, 5 days, a kiss, sex, a year
or 50 years. It will come when one of the players figures that the game is over. But until then it happens what happens. Seduction is a game that flows, it is not to be seen as mechanical it also does not end after sex. Seduction is a lifestyle, an emotion and an idealistic goal.

Now I have got a different view on seduction than most of the people in the seduction community.  What I do is in flow. Many call it “natural.” It sure feels like “natural” but then again it is just one way of many to talk to a person. It might be a bit romantic or sleazy ” but then again: “There is no girl who wakes up and says to herself: I definitely won’t get swept off my feet today.” In my experience almost everyone looks for a little bit of dreaming, fantasizing, and romantic in his life.

Seduction allows us to open up our bad sides and our good sides to create a tension that flows right
into a sea of passion. A sea where people can just let go and enjoy themselves as they are and enjoy
the moment they share.

Seduction starts when she seduces me. The very second that I think thoughts about her she seduced me. She seduced me in a way that I think: “Uuuh, cute little girl ” “ I love that skirt on her.”  I let her seduce me  so far. I allow her to get me into the flow of seduction. The flow in which she plays with my thoughts and I play with hers. “That black dot right above your lips, I find that really sexy.”  The second she makes me think dirty thoughts, the game starts. I want her to think dirty thoughts too. So I walk up with her. I don’t know what I will say; it will appear the second that I stand before her. Most of the time I already know what to say: She seduced me. She made me think something about her.

What is better than this to start a conversation with than that something I just thought about her?
That little thought that she made me think. I want her to know that she seduces me. She will love it!
Most of the girls do. If she does not, well, she is good for sex and a one night stand but this girl has no heart in communicating with people. I want passion and love in my live! I do not like girls that are
too eager to play out their cards or their bitch shields. I am into girls that realize that there is a flow in a conversation once you let happen what comes up. This flow is seduction; it is passion; it is heart.
On this flow the two of you can glide into an unknown future, and yes we are adventurers of our own stories. Who knows what future you will find with her, sliding deeper on that flow. Maybe one day you will wake up next to her in your bed and think: What a cute little girl. I loved to pull her ponytail
and see her pupils widen in ecstasy.

This is a bit of a different view on seduction maybe. It is one that is very successful for me and moreover, it is full of passion and heart. This way is a bit different and it follows different rules. I invite you to join my way and have a look at how I do it. Stories like this cannot be unraveled in one
article, as a way does not unravel itself with the first step. Be patient, we are going towards seduction, and yet  we are already in between.

photo by Dustin Diaz