Over the past few years as a Mystery Method/Lovesystems instructor, I’ve had the chance to meet and pick up women from all over the world. What’s most remarkable is how similar the process is everywhere. No matter where you are, women are attracted to the same basic qualities in a man, things like leadership, loyalty and pre-selection by women. But there are cultural differences, and I thought I’d share my notes on the ones I’ve noticed.
Brazilian – Cajun and I are actually going to Rio at the end of August (Check our site for the bootcamp up soon) , so I’ll have some more notes for you in September, but the main difference I’ve noticed with Brazilian women is touch. Brazilian woman will touch you right away if they like you, and they expect you to touch them back. The way that Americans relate to one another comes across stiff and uptight to Brazilians. Basically, you can throw your arm around a Brazilian girl’s hips pretty early in the conversation, and she won’t even consider it to be forward.
Asia – The opposite of Brazil. Chinese, Japanese and Korean women often feel uncomfortable with the kind of touching that would be pretty normal in America. Don’t get discouraged just because she won’t hold your hand on the date, or pulls away when you put your arm around her; it’s pretty normal for Asian girls to reject that kind of move when it’s made in a public place. As long as she’s smiling, it’s still on. Later, when you’re in a private place where she feels comfortable, you’ll find things have changed completely.
Eastern European Girls – Eastern Europe has a really macho culture where guys are pretty much supposed to be complete jerks, or they’re perceived as gay or weak. Be aloof, direct and above all, in control. Bad boy’s stuff is perfect for eastern Europe.
Germany - German girls aren’t used to being approached, so there’s usually a really odd reaction at first. Opinion openers get taken very seriously, as if you were asking them for directions or something. However, if you just make them laugh, they’re suddenly very warm. I found that openers that had a built in joke worked really well in Germany. Most people speak pretty good English, though they’ll often say they don’t. Just keep talking.
Israeli Women - Israeli women all have an army-trained tough side to them which complicates things. Like all women, they like dominance and assertiveness in a guy. But if you go to far, you trigger her IDF training and suddenly she starts challenging you. If you can be dominant and assertive, but not aggressive enough to bring out her army side, she’ll pretty much pick you up herself. It’s kind of a tough balancing act.
@Germany:
I find the same to be very true, of Berlin at least.
I couchsurfed for 7 nights with 6 different people. I was a gigantic ball of happiness and exhaustion, really at ease and elated that anything was happening. Happiness and charm worked really well.
When I spoke to the local girls many of them told me that men hardly ever approach them and that I’m naturally very social because I’m an American. I dunno about the last part…
I’m planning on moving to Berlin after within 2 years, I loved it that much.
I am from Germany and I can tell you very few guys just approach girls….
I do sometimes just 4 fun…. but it is hard to make them talk…. you have to talk and to force them to finally start a conversation
Yeah, when I am overseas, I find I have to ‘plow’ a lot to get people to open up, but after that, they’re psyched to have met someone so social. People dig leaders and confidence, no matter what social constructs they’re brought up in.
-Jordan
I’m from Switzerland, which is right next to Germany and here and in the european countrys close by, my impression has been that day game works great if you either go direct and plow through like Jordan says, or go indirect and being charming and switch to direct slowly.
Girls are actually very friendly but not very sexual during the day, or at least thats what they’re taught to project.
Sweden – Swedish guys are very well dressed and can come accross as jerks (the girls nickname this stereotype “brats”) so the girls love easy going, relaxed and super freindly. If english is your native tounge, embelish it. From there its easy.
i confirm that in Berlin it’s true. few of the girls i’v been out with also said that they liked the fact that i approached them!
other italian friends (girls) said instead that it was very different here cause in a bar noone went approaching them (not that they weren’t good looking ;-P )
one think i noticed is that german girls sometimes take more seriously a kiss than sex, so sometimes it’s not that easy to kiss them but the step to sex is then very short…luckily ;-D !
East europe feels like it needs no machoing to me. There was never such a tradition. A friend from Boston came to see me 12 years ago and called Czech Republic a meat market (so macho would do too:) 1st thing he bought a kiss from a friendly street hooker who had no English for a dollar to get his “hooker” experience:) Girls were really impressed they could speak to an open USA man. It was sometimes too much to hang out with him. He was out of leash… collecting numbers in street, trams, busses, calling 2 hours a day (leaving huge bill), seducing with his virtuesque guitar playing, meeting and fucking in students bars, pubs, dorms etc. Being a womanizer he stayed…In 2 years he learned language. His way is apppreciation, attention and music. He never was macho, he was rather pest.
I can also asses Poland, Ukraine and Slovakia. No need for macho there either, but I always spoke to student types. I admit noticing a macho-bandit culture in Kiiv, Ukraine 10 years ago.. too many men were overly hard, using mafia style behaviour as debt collector or a raceteer earned 10x more than a decent employed person with a degree. .most of police people behaved alike /a decentralized mafia/, 3rd degree education is not free, entrepreneurs have to bribe and dodge the beaurocracy – so it was really toughing environment. Many drink. Decent women detest machos (though some admited mafiosing is attractive) and drunkers (it is very common disease there). Normal guy was a star. Go visit. Kiiv is beautiful.