Gambler stops by to discuss how to naturally pick up women across the pond.
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Pickup Podcast Ep. #59 Gambler Interview
AJ and Jordan
Introduction: learn how to open with women in different situations
Gambler from PUAtraining.com is on the phone from England
Kissing Opener and Openers in Different Situations
Gambler explains the first two things that his students must accomplish before they try to attempt the direct kiss approach. In the first they just learn to make eye contact and introduce themselves and in the second the learn how to make sexual tension. Women will never give a universal green light to give a kiss. Women either give a red light or amber light. As long as she is not actively trying to leave, that’s the first sign for a kiss.
Make eye contact with the girl you’re interested in. Stare for a lil’ bit while you think in your head “I want you and I’m going to have you.” Then walk over to her, directly to her. If you are able to walk up to her and get face to face, then you can slowly put your hand in her hair, kiss her on the cheek. and then go for the full thing.
Most game doesn’t have a place in a really noisy night club. That’s why you should practice your nonverbal game. You don’t need the scripted stuff if you have your nonverbal down pat. Playing with her, touching and such is much more important than the conversation you are having.
Any insecurity you have will be magnified at a club. You have to push through the tough stuff in order to get to the point where you are comfortable. Go to a club early and feel it out, get to know the place to make it easier for you to be comfortable there. Only do what makes you comfortable, don’t do something that you don’t like otherwise it will make you look awkward and like you’re not fun. Also get the staff’s names because then you can great them by name, which can be a very powerful tool. Becoming comfortable in the place can help with your confidence. It is near impossible for a girl to become attracted to a guy who is uncomfortable around her. Going to a strip club can help learn to be comfortable around women in close up situations. You can also go to an apartment store and have short conversations with women in order to gain more confidence and become more comfortable talking to women you don’t know and who are very beautiful.
Shyness is the fear of showing your insecurities to others. Getting comfortable in your own skin is the key to confidence. Write down what you think are the things you’re lacking confidence in then next to them write and action that you believe would get rid of these insecurities.
Two Openers that Gambler says work 100%
1. Day Game Opener – Approach her and say “Hey. I really need your help with something. A friend of mine had to rush away on business and he’s asked me a massive favor. He’s my best friend so I really wanna help. But what he’s done is he’s asked me to get a present for his girlfriend and he’s left me 300 dollars. I’ve been walking around hoping I’d come up with some ideas but I’m stuck. So I was wondering. what do you guys think?” As a prompt you can ask, “Should I get one big present of lots of little ones?” This should easily get you started in a conversation.
2. Night/Bar Opener – Approach and say, “Hey guys, I need to ask you something. My friend is coming in 20 minutes and we’re going to have a very serious conversation. Basically he’s been seeing this girl for three months and he’s going to ask her to marry him tomorrow. I know he’s going to be asking me what I think of it and I’ve spent some time with the girl and I really don’t like her too much and I also think it’s way too soon. So I’m in this really difficult position. I either tell him I don’t like the girl and I think it’s too soon but in that case he’s so in love he could even disown me as a friend. He’s just head over heels. But if I go along with it and say sure get married, whatever and it doesn’t work out, I’m just gonna feel terrible. So what do you guys think? I mean how soon is too soon to get engaged?” This can be used any place at night except a pumping dance club.
If a girl is attracted to you, it is basically impossible to be sleazy to her. Use the gay test in order to tell how much you should be touching the one during a conversation and if you are touching her too much. Think about how you are using Kino with the girl and replace her with a guy in her head. Would you find what you are doing as guy if it was the guy? If so, your touching too hard or too much.
