When I was first asked to write some articles for Pickup Podcast, I was incredibly excited. But then almost at once the pressure started. Not external pressure but pressure on myself. I’ve written countless articles for online and print publications, everything from men’s magazines to my regular columns on various websites online. Yet this was different;for once I was given free reign to write about any topic I wanted. With this in mind I wanted to make sure I wrote something that would be of great value to the community. Something that would be technical enough to excite me about writing it, while adding a great deal of understanding to topics and words we through around daily within the community yet very few people have a true understanding of them. So my articles on here will be a joint venture where we’ll explore the intricacies of the different psychological techniques we employ together.
The first topic I want to look at is Qualification. Qualification is probably the biggest term we use yet have no real understanding of its meaning, and occasionally how it’s used. To start with, let’s look at the origin of the actual term qualification, and its uses with regards to pickup. Loosely. Qualification was a term used to describe the action of making yourself come across as smooth and Alpha and questioning the girl you’re attempting to seduce to see if she is as good as you appear to be. A danger of this is the chance of Over qualifying and losing the girl as she feels she isn’t competent enough for a relationship with you.
This really does still leave a lot to the imagination. With pick up not truly being a certified science it’s up to us to begin to solidify things and see where the terms and techniques we use cross over into the realms of accepted psychology. In sales the term qualification is used readily. It is used to describe the action of using a series of questions in order to ascertain whether a prospective client is serious about purchasing your product.
Essentially you would look to create a series of set questions, routines if you will that would enable you to assess quickly and efficiently whether you where wasting your time in trying to sell your product to someone who literally has no intention, or means to purchase your wares. This can almost directly be applied to pick up in a very broad sense.
Even if we felt that qualification had no specific ability to generate attraction, those who are advocates of the “approach as many girls as you can” technique will readily see the benefit here. Simply assessing right off the bat whether a girl has any chance of sleeping with you and if not. moving on to the next one will save a lot of your time and energy for those that you can actually close.
It could even be argued that Direct game is a form of qualification. You approach and state your intent in the best way possible. If the girl isn’t interested in you on the first approach you can always move on to the next one and save your time and energy. Eventually you’re going to meet one who says yes. Now there are obviously a number of things you can do to increase your chances in direct game, and with practice, and work on your aesthetic; you can significantly increase your chances. What if we wanted something with a little more precision? Does qualification provide us with the tools to do so?
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Great material from Adam, personally i ´m a big fan. Still i have questions about his “formula” which starts directly from a Comfort Phase, i was thinking, according to the M3 model, or the Emotional progession one (same thing) you must build atraction before building rapport and comfort with a girl, so you can actually have a reason to do so.
Is a different kind of Comfort, or is a way to say that you must build Comfort during the whole process?
cause if we compare Adam ´s formula with the M3 model it would be something like:
A1A2A3 C1C2C3 S1S2S3
Comfort – Rapport Break – Building Attraction – Escalation
So complementing the two of them we would have a : A1C1A2A3 C2… and so on
If anyone understood the nerdy thing that i just did, will spot the interesting modifications on the M3 model… I ´ve been practicing Adam ´s formula, and it ´s great, also the M3 model is great, and both work in a very cool way if you can pull them off.
So, to make things short. Is the kind of Comfort that Adam uses at the beggining of his formula a different kind of Comfort compared to the M3 model, or is just the same kind pulled off in a different way. Because using comfort at the beggining is actually something that Mystery called in his Venusian Arts handbook as a common mistake. And actually is pretty logical.
My guess is that both of the gurus are using different types of Psychological backgrounds, Mystery is more of a Conductist, while perhaps Adam is more of a Cognitive schooled man.
Anyway, i love all of their work. is really lifechanging.
My regards to both of them and for the PP team.
Heya man,
thanks for taking the time to reply.
Actually the method I use encorporates the m3 model from the break in rapport onwards.
I added the comfort stage as there are some people who just can’t possibly start an interaction without some form of foundation to break rapport from.
A common mistake in the community is beleiving you can’t close if you start from comfort. But millions of people around the world close from within their friendship circles or via introduction starting the process from Comfort. It’s the most natural thing to do. I’m not saying it’s the only way to do things, but it is definitely more consistent. E.g. try opening a girl during the day in a shopping mall with a neg. then try doing it by adding value to her in someway, and watch the difference.
I’ll cover this in a future blog for PP.
All the best
AFC Adam,
What if a girl ignores you neg?? any advice?
well, we don’t teach negs on the show, because most women with self-respect will ignore you and probably label you as a jackass. So, my advice is to stop using negs.