The eyes say it all. Learn to have women approach YOU using specifically-focused eye contact in a sexual state. Cory Skyy from Badboywithaheart.com tells you how!
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Episode 30: Eye Contact With Cory Skyy Show Notes
Energy/Vibe: another word for non-verbal communication.
It’s easier to learn from a blank slate than to fix something you’ve learned that is wrong.
Don’t think about women/pickup like you’re talking about a computer.
Eye Contact:
Make eye contact as soon as you walk in the door.
Later, make eye contact with her again.
In your head, think “I want you” or “I want to fuck you.”
Confidence is key. Women love confident guys.
Even if you have sunglasses on, project your inner energy. A lot of it is in your body language.
Girls would rather a guy make eye contact first than make a completely cold approach.
Get women to approach you.
Build up sexual tension by walking around the room.
Once you are able to read body language and read facial expressions, you will be able to read any situation. (Examples: guys and girls as friends, boyfriend/girlfriend, guy talking to girl that is completely uninterested and would welcome an interruption)
Girls are giving off signals that guys aren’t aware of.
Guys get checked out by girls all the time.
It takes time to learn how to see these signals.
Focus on your inner game more than practicing lines, or worrying about waiting how long to wait to call a girl.
Women know you’re using a line.
Routines will get you girls, but they won’t stick around. Girls may “settle” for you.
Should I get over approach anxiety by talking to every hot girl I see?
Try talking to guys first. You can relate to them more.
What do I say to other guys?
Find out what you have in common, and talk about it…video games, girls, cars, whatever.
I brought a girl home from a bar, how do I know if she’s into me?
You brought her home! She’s into you!
How do I connect on a deep emotional level?
Stay in the moment. Maintain eye contact.
No seriously the eyes can do almost 90% of the approach for you. I was leaning against the wall outside of my job. I was feeling sexy as always and looked directly at this HB walking by and as she passed she whispered a ‘hi’ to me. I coulda followed, but the break is short and there were many more sets to open that day.
Eye Opener =)
Thanks PP,
Elixir
I’ve heard about this abrupt editing issue. Bear in mind a lot of the stuff we edit is because of time issues. I also edit things that offer no value. I personally can’t remember what I’ve edited out of this podcast, because it was about 6 weeks ago. On the other hand, it doesn’t matter what people think about the community or what you guys are doing, especially someone who isn’t involved in it.
I think the interview stands on its own, without incorporating any drama that might have been included in the pre-release version.
ya dig?
Best,
-jordan
I think inquisitive minds want to hear the uncensored version of this podcast. There is especially an abrupt jump about 20 min in, once Cory starts going off about guys in the community.
I’m glad he vocalized what I was feeling: Y’know when you’re watching a lecture or something on Youtube and you see the guys in the audience…they give off a creepy vibe. But it makes sense: why else do many of us seek out the community in the first place.
That said, I doubt I would seek this guy out, even if I had the ridiculous amount of money on hand that he charges. The cockiness may work for the girls, but the way he laughs at how bad-ass he is…
Yeah, I don’t mean to hate. Truth be told, it was another great interview. Somehow, you guys get a great rapport with all the guests, despite the fact that sometimes your styles are quite different.
Don’t get me wrong: Listening to PickupPodcast is one of my favorite indulgences of all time, and I’m always psyched when I see a new podcast.
This guys comments on how creepy the guys in the community energy is about the most hilarious thing ive heard.
The guy makes some good if obvious points. “The heart of pickup is inner game”. No shit?
Too bad his tone is sort of negative, instead of positive and encouraging. Frankly I found his patronizing tone sort of creepy. Lots of “creepy” guys push through the routines and a year later they are comfortable and successful because they needed the training wheels of routines to get started, then they found the inner game.
I also dispute his assertion that ‘the community’ doesn’t emphasize inner game. Lots of guru’s talk about and write about it. The fact is that inner game success comes from successful external interaction, and they feed off each other. No once can just turn on inner game success and be able to experience instant success.
Rather than rag on what the community talks about, more practical tips would have been nice, because the guy apparently does have game…
Your ability to keep rapport with this douchebag is impressive.
I dont know why should anyone want advice from this unarticulate man who can just repeat saying “i always had the hottest chicks, im amazing,all the rest is shit”. He didnt explain whats so bad with theories, models(a ‘set’ is just an abstraction) and psychology(practice behavior helps you change you beliefs), and didnt offer any alternatives
oh man who does this guy think he is? so what if i’m juz starting n i use routines? “fake it till you make it”–mystery
off topic but I must. . .does anyone know the intro song? I gotta have it.
I’ve listened to most of your casts and this guy was probably the worest(HE lacked the ability to articulate any of his ideas and was pretty negative throughout the interview, a poor sign of a real guru), but you guys are doing excellent. Keep up the great work bros.
i get the impression that the Pickup Podcast crew did not agree 100% with some of the philosophies offered by Cory Skyy, though the team were very tactful and diplomatic in handling these differences (ie. professional !!). i think Skyy has tried to re-invent many of the ‘standard’ techniques and is more concerned about ‘doing his own thing’ (effectively going against the grain). He clearly ranks his discoveries as being far superior to other alternative (or traditional) practices. i was not convinced by this guy as i sensed he lacked depth and sincerity.
In saying all that, if Skyy can REALLY perform such successful pick-ups by simply using his magigal EYE GAZING tricks, then my hat goes off to him. Seeing is believing (pun not intended !!) so i shall reserve my judgement.
ATTN : Anonymous (18/09/07).
The jingle theme which opens this show sounds like the (brass) introduction from the filmscore of the movie ‘ROCKY’. Its been ‘looped’ and a funky drum beat has been added.
(of course i may be completely wrong !!) ha ha..
I not only found this interview interesting but was dissapointed that AJ & Jordan didn’t get a lot more from this guy.
Sure, when a guy claims to be THE true NATURAL–maybe only one of five in the world–well, that does come off a bit arrogant and cocky and it’s only NATURAL to want to knock this guy off his perch.
But…
That eye contact thing is right on the money. Although I didn’t have a clue I was doing it back in my 20s, that helps explain why I would have women come to me, even though I wasn’t good looking, didn’t have a great job, hardly any money, and no game to speak of.
The only thing I had was a little indifference and an unconscious habit of making eye contact. And whenever that eye contact became DEEP eye contact, she would either approach me or I would know that it was “safe” to approach her.
And even though I’m now an older guy, I’ve found that this effect pretty much still holds true.
So AJ and Jordan…why not bring this Cory guy back for another round? I think he’s got a lot more to say…
Seems many are drinking the haterade.
I just focus on the positive and what I can learn from the guy. He clearly has it down. The way he speaks and how he uses his voice impressed me when I first heard him on approach anxiety.
That was funny about creepy guys.
I got a weird vibe from a couple of the things Cory said… “I don’t usually talk to guys,” and about how “You don’t really have to listen to what [a girl] is saying” while you’re talking to her. That attitude doesn’t add value and it definitely doesn’t sit well with me… overall he just seemed way shallow. This IS the only PPC I’ve heard where I didn’t feel like I learned much, so no offense intended to AJ & Jordan. You can’t bat a thousand with every interview; keep up the good work guys.
I’ve meet Cory Skyy. I met say he’s presence speaks for itself.
His attitude is what women love and look for in men. Most guys will not understand him or see his point of view on how to attract. It was something I had to get use to at first but once I did it was amazing. This interview can be confusing to most I understood it perfectly because it was all inner game. Think about this! This guy has done this since he was 10 years. I’ve seen all his letters from girls when he was in high school and pictures of all the girls he made out with. I’ve also seen him in live in the field. He is awesome! Cory is definitely a natural.
I’ve listened to a lot of the stuff from pickup podcast and find most of the guys who have broken down social interaction to some kind of computer program to be creepy. I find this guy to be honest and just telling what he does. I completely get what he is saying, the eye thing works. Holding your presence works.