Episode #27 Plan a Date that Will Lead to the Next Step

Dinner and a movie?
Spending money on a girl won’t get her to like you.
Women who just want to hook up will make you wait if you put yourself in the provider role.’
You’re chasing the girl if you’re throwing money at her. A man with options will do fun things that don’t necessarily cost a lot of money.
A movie forces you to sit next to each other for two hours and not get to know each other.
How about a cup of coffee?
Coffee isn’t bad, but didn’t 400 other guys already ask her out to coffee?
Make your intentions clear that it’s a date, not a friend-date.
Tips:
It should be short. An hour to two hours at the most. If it isn’t going well, you can end it, and not be awkward. You can always change your plans if things are going well.
Why is a movie bad?
You’re sitting next to each other, and you can’t talk.  On the screen are these larger-than-life, very sexy actors, and that brings out your insecurities.
The conversation after will be stale and boring since you’ll only talk about the movie.
Get her interested in you, not the movie.
But…I take girls to movies, and I get laid. What’s wrong with that?
The focus of the date should be you, not the movie. You should be able to have a fun time, whatever the two of you do.
Stand out. Do something cooler than a movie.
Everyone is self-conscious when they eat.
The table is a big barrier to cross; it makes it more obvious that you’re trying to touch her.
Bars are also bad. Never take a girl to a bar on a date.
How do I have a good day 2?
You have to plan. Make it a surprise for her. Tell her what to wear, (wear shoes you can dance in, wear shoes you can walk in, bring a jacket, etc.)
Avoid the “I dunno, what do you want to do?” conversation.
Think of a relationship like a car: the man is the steering wheel, the woman is the brake.
Part of your plan should be planning for success. Make sure that your place is reasonably clean (and stocked with condoms).
Where should I take her to try to have sex with her?
It should be a place where you have 100% control. As a man, you should take control of the situation.
Tips:
Go on the kind of date that a woman you would be with would like. Screen for the kind of girl you want.
As you become more successful with women, you need to screen before wasting lots of money and time.
If you haven’t kissed her by the end of the date, it’s not happening.
If she wants to hold your hand, she wants to kiss you.
Don’t be afraid to kiss her. Take a risk. Man up.
Who should pay?
Whatever you’re comfortable with. Any place you take her to, you should be comfortable paying for. Be sure to mention ahead of time if you plan to have her pay.  She’ll assume you’re going to pay. If you aren’t comfortable paying for a fancy dinner, go somewhere else. (Note to women: if you offer to pay, don’t get upset when he accepts your offer.)
Create an “us bubble.”
Have a place to go after your “date.”

Fun Day 2 Ideas:
Trapeze Lessons
Dancing Lessons
Art Lessons
Paintball
Puzzle Night
Going to a Sporting Event
Hookah
Ice Cream
Wine Tasting
Rock Climbing
Planetarium
Fly a Kite
Ice Skating
Ride a Bike/Motorcycle