Jordan and AJ snag a phenomenal podcast interview with Dan aka Social Hitchhiker from Charisma Arts. In our opinion, this interview sets a new high-water mark for content. We hear a LOT from Dan about the CA method and the simple-yet-elegant techniques they use to really connect with women, as well as how to be outgoing and charismatic.
“You must be the change you wish to see in the world.”
-Mahatma Ghandi
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Use the “I” Perspective, talk about your on feelings, not someone else’s actions.
Disqualifying: active, bring up your own faults in a joking tone of voice/ reactive, whatever she is looking for in a guy, you’re not. Exaggerate a compliment or even insult. Works because you are displaying that you are not appoval-seeking.
Push/pull
Sexual barriers: make the girl overcome a barrier, instead of you overcoming a barrier. Make her think about going home with you, depending on her behavior.
Guys responsibility is to find women, girls responsibility is to filter and possibly reject men.
So, when a girl doesn’t have anything to say, don’t worry about it, don’t leave unless she asks you to.
Ask good questions.
Find out what’s interesting about girls.
The vacuum: Ask a question, wait for an answer that satisfies you. Don’t leave.
Conversation should be 50/50, don’t follow the 90/10 rule.
Should you take a boot camp? If you feel that you have the courage, or can get the courage with a little push and a little coaching, to talk to strangers, then a boot camp is for you.
It’s not about picking up girls, it’s about being socai, and that gets you girls.
Neil Strauss’s “The Game” dehumanized women
The community should help you enrich your life, not give you validation.
If you are dating multiple women at once (polyamory/MLTR), be honest with all the girls from the beginning.
Handy phrase: “Right now, I’m dating a couple people but nothing’s really serious.”
Voice Mailbag: 417-200-GAME (also check out “Game on” on Satellite Radio, and live coaching on www.theartofcharm.com)
Hey Guys,
I just found your podcast blog and I have to say that I agree with the “shoulder seam” advice given in this podcast interview.
I am a very fashionable girl and I can tell when a guy’s clothes don’t fit. If the shoulder seams hangs over the shoulder (onto the arm), it look sloppy. PERIOD.
I’m going to go back to listening to the podcast now.
Thanks,
Ana Renee Jones
This is an phenomenal interview with so much useful information for both single guys, couples, and for people who simply want to gain better communication skills. i really like the sound of Dan as he is totally NON-egotistcal and has his feet firmly on the ground. He is as (if not more) concerned about gaining successful relationships with people in general, than just using his skills to seduce women.