*PODCAST UPDATE* Cheatsheet DL added below!
This week, in the first of a 2-part podcast episode, AJ & jordan outline another important tool in their pickup arsenal: Banter & Role-play. You’ll learn how to playfully take yourself and the women you meet mentally away from the social-pressure of a ‘pickup’, allowing you to later generate solid rapport and connection.
Part 1 focuses on role-play, part 2 will focus on the ‘playful teasing’ and ‘push/pull’ aspects of Banter.
“…don’t mean to bust your bubble, but girls of the world ain’t nothin’ but trouble.” -Will Smith
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The art of jovial/flirtation conversation
Gets you away from the nervousness of meeting someone new.
Use imagination/roleplay/humor to put a girl into a friendly and flirty mindset.
Banter is a way to make someone forget that she just met you five minutes ago.
You can disqualify yourself in a playful manner (false disqualifier), and turn it into a roleplay.
Use your imagination, not your logic!
Sarcasm is not banter
Flip the script on the girl, joke she has to protect you from other girls attacking you.
Remember to have fun with your roleplay, not be boring or predictable.
STAY AWAY from interview questions (where are from, what is your job, etc), that information will come out as you interact with her and tell each other stories.
Do not have conversation-enders (such as sarcasm).
Negs that point out flaws are NOT good banter.
Use “Pegs,” the opposite of negs.
Mailbag: Dates.
Stay away from traditional dinner/movie dates. Stand out by doing something different. Take her shopping, to a kid’s arcade, the zoo, or something fun you already do.
Fashion tip: learn how to iron. Wrinkled shirts look bad. Little things that annoy girls are little things that will get you shot down.
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AJ Harbinger was introduced to the world of social dynamics by Jordan Harbinger in 2004. Before then, the concept of social dynamics was an idea AJ had never considered or even knew existed. Upon introduction, his interest was immediately piqued. AJ & Jordan carried out a variety of social experiments while attending the University of Michigan, which apprised them of their aptitude in the field. From there they went on to produce PickUp Podcast and SiriusXM Radio
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Thanks for this. You guys are awesome!
-Bender
Can you fix the link to the cheat sheet, or put it in another format. It’s not working in adobe.
really cool podcast guys
The info here on banter was great. I especially liked your opinion on negs and I have always thought along the same lines as you on negs. The thing with negs is that, yes they have their place with the 10+ who have major attitude and need a neg to get their attention and to shift their focus (because she’s you aren’t bowing down to her and kissing her feet like everybody else) BUT for 90% of chicks who are just attractive, cool chicks – negs are unnecessary and goes against who I am and how I like to treat people (women and men).
You’re some cool guys for thinking and acting objectively about things like negging.
I like the date idea/day two of the Zoo. I have a yearly membership for Taronga Zoo (in Sydney) which gives me free entry for me and a guest (i.e. chicks) all year round – how cool is that? haha
overall, this podcast was great stuff. keep doing your thing!
peace
Adam
Good episode as it clarified a couple of techniques of which i had only read about in books (being ‘false disqualifying statements’ and ‘fantasy role playing’).
LISTEN AND LEARN !!!!!!!!! lol
The link to the example banter is broken, would be nice to get a hold of it.
Thanks!
I’ve been using this stuff on my girlfriend relentlessly [at least until her clothes are off] and she is having an awesome time laughing and goofing around [again, at least until her clothes come off].
Hey guys! This episode rocks!
But the link to the banter sheet is broken, could you fix it?
I started listening around April 9th to your Podcasts. I was walking to the car dressed up lastnight and you started talking about how to dress. I think its #5 or #6 and you said nice jeans are very good. I was wearing very stylish dress slacks, peach shirt and a tie. I turned around and went back upstairs and put on my favorite dark jeans (Request). Kept the shirt and tie. And I had a great time lastnight, felt great and not over dressed. Thanks!